Why i let my 12 year old get her eyebrows waxed

When I told people I was going with Miss C to get her eyebrows waxed I was surprised by the amount of raised eyebrows (pardon the pun!).

I don’t see the problem in allowing my daughter to start wanting to tweak how she looks (obviously within reason). I wouldn’t allow her to dye her hair bright red and plaster herself with makeup to the point she’s unrecognisable.

I knew that when I was a mum, I would allow my children to do things that I wasn’t allowed to do in my teens. I wasn’t allowed to shave my arms or legs until I was 15 and I have dark hair as well! I wasn’t allowed to pluck my eyebrows even though I had a unibrow (eeeek there I said it!) until I was 16 and not a speck of makeup until I was 15.

Can you imagine having to deal with the hair sticking out of your thick school tights or having dark hair combined with pasty white legs on show in the summer, the embarrassment of the girls changing room with all my hair and the shite self confidence I had as a teen!

I ended up at 14 shaving my legs when I was staying over a friends house. She had been shaving for over a year and I just couldn’t deal with the shame any longer. That night after being so scared that the shaver was going to kill me with pain I plucked up the courage and shaved them. Hair – gone forever hooray! Then I told my mum when I got home.

She wasn’t happy, she was disappointed I went behind her back. Then I felt bad. She thankfully let me carry on shaving my legs. I started shaving my armpits then too wahoo.

Still no touching my eyebrows until I was 16! To be honest I was scared it would hurt and I had no idea what to do with them so I just got on with it.

Miss C has been shaving her armpits for the last year, as soon as she said ‘mum that’s disgusting I’ve got hairy armpits’, I showed her how to shave. She was not going to go through the shame I felt in the summer or in the girls changing rooms!

Over the last few weeks she has been complaining about her ‘bushy eyebrows’ and that she could see a ‘unibrow forming’. She asked about plucking them but I don’t want her plucking her eyebrows cluelessly like I did and end up with them like mine. I have barely any eyebrows left through plucking, I have mine tattooed on with semi permanent makeup. I am pants with beauty stuff so after we spoke together we agreed to go to see a professional who would shape her eyebrows when waxing them would be the best option.

Here are the before and after photos.

There isn’t a huge difference even though a lot of hair came off, they just look neater and Miss C is much more happier in her appearance because of it.

She took this selfie for her IG account, (as teens do!)

What do you allow your 12 year old to do or what did you allow your 12 year old to do?

24 Comments on Why i let my 12 year old get her eyebrows waxed

  1. Island Living 365
    August 18, 2017 at 8:26 am (2 days ago)

    Like you said, I think if you don’t let them do it then they will go behind your back and do it anyway. At least this way you can make sure it is being done properly. It’s not harming anyone so why not x

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    • indecisivemum
      August 18, 2017 at 8:10 pm (2 days ago)

      Exactly! I’d much rather know what she is doing and keep her safe that way.

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  2. Martin Lee
    August 18, 2017 at 8:48 am (2 days ago)

    Both my boys are toddlers at the moment. But i am going to find it difficult when they start wanting to do ‘grown up things’ I suppose it’s about teaching them how to be sensible! #thatfridaylinky

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    • indecisivemum
      August 18, 2017 at 8:08 pm (2 days ago)

      That is the key i think, allowing your children to grow up and being aware of what they want is a sensible option.

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  3. Becky, Cuddle Fairy
    August 18, 2017 at 4:57 pm (2 days ago)

    I don’t know honestly – my oldest is 10 & he’s a boy so I don’t have these concerns yet. My daughter is only 4. I remember wanting to shave my legs – when all the girls are doing something it’s quite hard to be the one not doing it. Waxing eye brows just a bit like she did seems harmless to me x

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    • indecisivemum
      August 18, 2017 at 8:07 pm (2 days ago)

      I thought it was harmless until i had a few surprised reactions from people. Miss C is a lot more confident now she’s had it done 🙂

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  4. Life with Baby Kicks (@Laura_BabyKicks)
    August 18, 2017 at 8:43 pm (2 days ago)

    I think it’s better to do something with your children rather than them do it without your knowledge. And I am all for doing things to improve your childs confidence – how can that be a bad thing?

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    • indecisivemum
      August 20, 2017 at 10:08 am (3 hours ago)

      Absolutely. I was surprised to receive the opposite reaction from people i know!

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  5. Sinéad (shinnersandthebrood.com)
    August 18, 2017 at 9:59 pm (2 days ago)

    It’s a tough one, isn’t it? To be honest I haven’t a clue because my daughters are much younger but you remind me that I’ll be faced with such dilemmas before I know it!

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    • indecisivemum
      August 20, 2017 at 10:10 am (3 hours ago)

      Kids grow up so fast! Yes this will be you before you know it!

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  6. Kira
    August 18, 2017 at 10:13 pm (2 days ago)

    Beautiful! I agree 100%. My daughter is 14 and she’s been having her eye brows threaded since she was 12 . 🙂

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    • indecisivemum
      August 20, 2017 at 10:12 am (3 hours ago)

      I think it’s the done thing now. I never had the opportunity when i was younger so i’m making sure Miss C does 🙂

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  7. Claire @ The ladybirds adventures
    August 19, 2017 at 6:58 am (1 day ago)

    I have two young girls. I don’t remember when I started shaving as a teen but definitely better to do it than have her do it behind your back.

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    • indecisivemum
      August 20, 2017 at 10:06 am (3 hours ago)

      My thoughts exactly!

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  8. Katy - Hot Pink Wellingtons
    August 19, 2017 at 1:28 pm (24 hours ago)

    Oh, I would have no problem with that at all! I was so paranoid about body hair when I was at school – I’m pretty dark – and I think eyebrow shape is so important, so I definitely wouldn’t want my daughter to try to tackle them herself (like I did!). Although mine started off ok, over the years I plucked more and more until there wasn’t much left. It’s taken years to grow them back, and now I leave it to the professionals.

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    • indecisivemum
      August 20, 2017 at 10:14 am (3 hours ago)

      I over plucked to the point of no return! I have then tattooed on now!

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  9. diynige
    August 19, 2017 at 7:47 pm (18 hours ago)

    I see no problem with it you are there to make sure things are done properly no issues there Thank you for linking to #ThatFridayLinky Please come back next week

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    • indecisivemum
      August 20, 2017 at 10:19 am (3 hours ago)

      This is my thought too. I took her somewhere I knew was reputable and safe.

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  10. dearbearandbeany
    August 19, 2017 at 8:55 pm (16 hours ago)

    My girls are too young for me to have any experience of this yet. But I definitely wouldn’t want them to feel embarrassed or uncomfortable over their appearance. I have all this and these decisions to make to come!!

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    • indecisivemum
      August 20, 2017 at 10:20 am (3 hours ago)

      I had to go through all the embarrassment when i was younger so i am making sure Miss C doesn’t!

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  11. Laura Dove
    August 19, 2017 at 9:02 pm (16 hours ago)

    I think it’s better to allow them to have them waxed (within reason, I’m not keen on these big dark eye brows that teens tend to want!) than to have the pluck their own and mess them up. I plucked mine as a teen and as a result they don’t grow how they are supposed to! I wish I had been allowed to have them waxed!

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    • indecisivemum
      August 20, 2017 at 10:22 am (3 hours ago)

      Waxing is simple and she only gets them neatened up and thinned slightly. I wish I was allowed to get mine waxed too, I have barely any eyebrow hair left!

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  12. Amy
    August 20, 2017 at 6:31 am (7 hours ago)

    I would definitely let my girls do this when they were older, I used to pluck my eyebrows in secret when I was younger and now I’ve hardly got any! If we don’t let our kids do stuff like this, they will just go behind our backs anyway like we did, at least this way we can offer some much needed guidance!

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    • indecisivemum
      August 20, 2017 at 10:24 am (3 hours ago)

      As soon as i started plucking i totally over plucked because i hated them. As a parent I want my kids to come to me and tell me how they feel knowing i will support them. I don’t want her to have the same experiences i had as a teen with doing things behind my mums back.

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